Porn is eating your brain

It’s been a long day. You just got home from work. You’re tired, feeling lazy, and maybe a little horny too. The computer beckons. You turn it on, wondering what kind of new and excellent porn video you’re going to find, one that’ll hit the spot just right. Two hours and countless clips later, you’re done. Not horny anymore, but you didn’t fuck anyone either. Welcome to porn: it sucks (metaphorically).

It’s like a drug or something

An internet porn addiction is when the thought of your computer turns you on.
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So many guys I know watch a lot of porn. Like, two hours a day. Of other people fucking. Think about how messed up that is: rather than getting out there, trying to meet a girl of their own that they can have the good sex with, they watch other people do it on a computer screen. It’s a very odd concept, when you break it down like that.

Now, porn isn’t a horrible thing. When you’re sick at home, and you don’t have the option of getting sex, porn is a viable alternative. Also, if you limit your porn watching to once a week, your brain won’t get taken over by the pornographic demons.

But if you’re a normal, average human, and you watch porn 1-2 hours a day, you’ve got a problem. That’s 7-14 hours of your life, every single week. Think about how much you could accomplish if you used a fraction of that time on something like fitness, learning, or working on a personal project.

Sure, there are some benefits to porn, like learning new positions, or identifying body parts if you’re a virgin. Even watching it with a partner is fun, because it gets you both in the mood.

Unfortunately, there are lots of detrimental things you’ll pick up too. Not every girl wants to get DPed and bukkake’d within ten minutes of meeting. Save that stuff for the fifth date.

Ok, but I like watching porn

Me too man, me too. But it had a negative effect on my brain in lots of ways.

First, I began to make a habit of checking out porn sites as soon as I got on my computer. Like all routines, when you do it enough times, you reinforce the bad habit. It doesn’t help that this particular habit is damn fun.

Second, I was slowly getting desensitized to what I was seeing. Watching ordinary sex was no longer stimulating enough. I needed more positions, more spanking, more leather, more etc. When you need to see three midgets licking nutella off of a tranny hooker that’s getting it on with a goat, just to get turned on, maybe you need to take a break.

Third, I developed all kinds of weird complexes about my body. I couldn’t have sex 3 times in quick succession and I didn’t have a 10-inch dong. Was I normal? Um, yea. Pornstars, like athletes, get hired because they have specific skills. They can get erections on command in front of tons of people, last forever, orgasm multiple times, and have large penises. Most of us are two out of four on these things.

Funny story: a couple of years ago, I was sick at home with the flu. My girlfriend at the time came over with soup (bless her sexy soul), and decided to get some work done on my computer while I shivered in bed. After about an hour of working, she suddenly looked at me with a mischievous grin and asked:

“Hey, where’s your porn? I wanna see what kind of freaky shit you watch.”

“Um, on my desktop, in the folder called ‘Porn'”, I replied.

“No way! I would’ve seen it before. Lemme check i… oh my god there it is! You just leave it in plain sight?”

“Well, I work on a Mac. Anyone can just type in a keyword in Finder and find my porn, so might as well make it easier for me to access.”

We both had a good laugh about that.

So what’s your point?

I’m a lucky man. When I got into my first real relationship, I no longer had the urge to watch porn. In fact, it seemed like a waste of time. I had it in case I was away from my girl for a long period of time.

It’s a weird cycle: when I have a girl, I don’t watch porn. When I don’t have a girl, I watch porn, which makes me less driven to meet a girl, which leads to more porn. Ouch.

Now here’s the experiment: when I don’t have a girl, and don’t watch porn, what happens? In my experience, I usually quadruple the effort I put into meeting girls, and end up getting laid. I want you to try it.

So, I’m issuing the porn challenge to all my friends out there: no porn watching, as of right now. No nudie pics, no half-naked online profiles, no tube sites, no downloads, no magazines, no erotica.

If you really want to get yourself off, you’ll have to use your imagination. I want to see how long you’ll survive without the online stimulation.

The best way I’ve found is to actually meet women, so if you want a play-by-play on how to get a girlfriend, check out The Geek’s Guide to Getting the Girl.