When I was just a little geek, I worried about what people thought of me. I used to think everyone was judging my looks, friends, girlfriends, clothes, and pretty much every other aspect of my life. I felt awkward for playing Magic: The Gathering and Tekken, and super uncomfortable when people found out I loved videogames more than sports.
Now that I am a big geek, I realize that I was way off in my head. Sure, occasionally people are judgy, and stick you in a category as soon as they meet you. As a general rule though, people don’t judge so much.
Here’s the secret:
Most of us are too busy worrying about our own shit to spend time judging other people’s shit.
Pretty sweet eh?
Nightclub, aka bane of geeks everywhere
Here’s the best part: once I got over my worry of being judged, I started going to nightclubs. At first, being surrounded by beautiful, well-dressed people dragged that worry right back, and it was stronger than ever.
Thankfully, I was also learning how to chat up the female units at these clubs. This forced me to interact with many of the aforementioned beautiful well-dressed people, and slowly get over my paranoia.
Not only that, but I developed a new form of confidence. By focusing on my goal, and going for what I wanted, I let go of the fear that was holding me back. Like every great geek, I began to see patterns emerge. Like every great geek, I familiarized myself with them until I was comfortable.
And the judgment vanished.
So what am I trying to say?
Get out there and geek out! Life’s too short to worry about Fred disliking your shoes, or Jenny detesting your new limited edition number 4 of 35 Super Mario Bros. giclee print on ultrasmooth fine art paper that looks goddamn magnificent on your wall. Just enjoy.
Do you feel judged? Do you wory about people’s reactions to every little thing you do? Or are you the opposite, and completely oblivious to this? Leave a comment and tell me!